men's mental health

This book may change your life. Kluth studies the lives of famous men throughout history in an effort to understand what it means to truly succeed. He digs into the lives of Hannibal of Carthage, Franklin Delano Roosevelt, Ernest Shackleton, Carl Jung, and others. He presents a compelling text on the differences between tactics and strategy and how to triumph at both. Studying history intently can ensure that we don’t make the same mistakes again.

This book may change your life. Kluth studies the lives of famous men throughout history in an effort to understand what it means to truly succeed. He digs into the lives of Hannibal of Carthage, Franklin Delano Roosevelt, Ernest Shackleton, Carl Jung, and others. He presents a compelling text on the differences between tactics and strategy and how to triumph at both. Studying history intently can ensure that we don’t make the same mistakes again.

This is the foundational text of Stoicism written by one of the world’s greatest leaders. In this work Marcus Aurelius writes about the nature of the mind, reality, and ethics. Some gems include learning how to accept things that are outside of our control, the importance of charity and altruistic action, and the importance of self integrity and connection with community.

Across all cultures the archetype of the Hero emerges throughout myth and legend. A hero is one who travels deep into the underworld, accomplishes superhuman tasks, and battles paranormal forces. Joseph Campbell, a Jungian Analyst, interprets Hero Stories from across the globe to find the common patterns and deeper meaning. Mythology is not just fairy tales or entertainment, it is a vector that our ancient ancestors used to communicate wisdom. The Hero’s Journey mirrors the psychoanalytic view of personal development where the underworld is a metaphor for the unconscious. If you’re working with me I recommend reading this book, you may just see yourself in some of these heroes.


Psychoanalysis is a daunting body of knowledge that intimidates even seasoned psychotherapists. It’s full of complex ideas and seemingly contradictory theories and frameworks. Mari Ruti’s book, The Call of Character, does the miraculous job of presenting psychoanalytical ideas in an easy to read and relatable format. It seeks straight to the soul of the existential crisis so many of us find ourselves in and presents a way to overcome our own patterns of self-sabotage in order to become the best possible versions of ourselves. I highly recommend this book as an entry point for anyone looking to get into psychoanalysis in order to improve themselves.

Of all the classic psychoanalysts, I connect the most with Carl Jung. He blends Depth Psychology with Eastern mystism. Jung took what Freud built and dove deeper into the unconscious by exploring the world of dreams and imagination. This book is a collection of essays and lectures, it’s a great place to start learning about Carl Jung and his approach. This is one of the books that I keep coming back to and keep learning more from. It’s a fascinating read that may just cause you to look at the world, and yourself, differently.

I can’t count how many times I’ve recommended this book to new clinicians! It is essential for anyone looking to get into Modern Psychoanalytic Group or anyone that finds themselves in a leadership or management position. It details common group phenomena and presents techniques for building a healing community. Ormont presents a Modern Psychoanalytic view to group psychotherapy that I aim to embody when I facilitate.  


This books takes one of the few Grimms’ Fairy Tales about men, Iron John, and deconstructs it. There are many lost and forgotten messages embedded in mythology and folklore. Robert Bly aims to inspire men to get in touch with their primal and wild nature. In this book he provides a map of a coming of age journey that is sorely lacking in our American culture. His aim to help boys become men by finding their purpose and attaining mastery in their lives. This is old knowledge decoded and interpreted for the modern world.

Cultures around the world have been educating young boys about what it means to be a man for eons. But, for some reason, in the modern era is nearly impossible to find instruction and guidance on how to embody one’s masculine nature. This book examines cross-cultural stories and messages about masculinity through the lens of the four Masculine Archetypes – King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover. A true man embodies each of these fully and fluidly. It takes hard work and courage to be a man – it’s not just a matter of time and age.

This unique, and frankly, incendiary work provides an alternative to the two most common masculine typologies: the macho jerk and the new age wimp. Deida inspires readers to transcend their fears and insecurities in order to embody a new masculinity. This book is for anyone who relates with the masculine energy, independent of birth sex. He presents both ways to work with yourself and with others that carry the feminine energy.

In this book Donovan studies what it means to be a man in Western Culture. The Way of Men speaks to taboo topics like men’s predatory desires, their fantasies of violence, their inherent gang mentality and their drive to dominate others and the environment. He writes about how our society makes less and less room for these impulses and as such they can manifest as addiction, neurosis, and, in extreme cases, psychosis.


This book provides a organizational system that is a powerful tool for working with anxiety. I personally use this system to organize my business and life. I feel as though I have a leg up! David Allen’s tools have helped tremendously to quiet my mind and allow me to be more present in the moment.

This book is a must read for anyone starting a new business. I’ve personally used this book as a foundation for all of my ventures and it hasn’t failed me. In the E Myth Gerber breaks down the myth of entrepreneurship. Most entrepreneurs don’t set out to be one, they are usually just people who don’t want to work under a boss. They are trained with technical skills but lack skills in business development, marketing, and management. The E Myth aims to fill these holes by offering a crash course written for the disgruntled technician.

So many people talk about how modern technology has created a shallow world of distractions. We are quick to blame the internet and social media for our inability to focus and concentrate. While a lot of those theories are well-founded very few people are talking about what to do about it; Cal Newport presents solutions to how to retrain your brain how to focus in a highly distracted world. I attribute much of my self discipline to this book.

Anyone can dream but very few can execute. How many of you have set a goal or vision for your future only to have it melt through your fingertips? This book provides an easy to understand system that includes Focusing on the Wildly Important Goals; Acting on Lead Measures; Keeping a Compelling Scoreboard; Creating a Cadence of Accountability in order to organize yourself or your business. This is a must read for entrepreneurs, small business owners, or team leaders of any kind.

Principles is a powerful one-two punch from Ray Dalio – a mega-investor and philanthropist that predicted the 2008 Recession. He was one of the first investors to use computer-aided decision making and predictive models in his business. Dalio commits to “Radical Transparency” in everything that he does and he speaks about the transformational effect that has had on himself and his employees. It’s a bold way to look at organizational development and personal integrity. Dalio’s writing is the perfect blend of evocative and wise.


This is the book that started me on my path of mindfulness and spiritual growth. It is written by the founder of Naropa University, Chogyam Trungpa. Trungpa brought the teachings of Tibetan Buddhism to the West during the Communist Revolution in China. This book is written for the Western audience and really speaks to the struggles of modern culture. It inspires readers to break out of their cocoons and embrace a life of searing vulnerability and openness. It is truly unique work and one that spoke to the very core of my being.

This book presents a revolutionary view of addiction and addictive behaviors. Mate focuses not on the substance but on the unmet need underneath. He views substance use as self-medication and encourages clients and clinicians to look beyond the surface and to treat the trapped soul within. This is a powerfully personal book full of moving stories of triumph over addiction by going into the darkness. His views strongly inform my practice as well as my own journey in recovery. 

This sales manifesto is by one of the greats, Grant Cardone. In it he writes about the importance of negotiation and integrity in the sales process. Grant aims to break down the stigma of salesmanship and instead frames sales as a necessary and almost sacred job in our society. This books not only provides practical and comprehensive tips on how to make a sale but it includes strategies on time management and personal relations.